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What they don't tell you about going to college.


This is my family. My people. My support system. My friends. My everything. And lately, I have been missing the crap out of them. 


When you get ready to go to college, and you will not be driving distance from your family, you assume that you will miss them. You assume that you will miss your high school friends. You assume you will miss your favorite restaurant in your home town. But no one ever told you that things will never be the same again. You will never return home to the same family dynamic. You never get to be a child again. Your friendships will never be the same. You will never again be in a place where everyone you love is close to you. 


But they also don't tell you how these new relationships, these new dynamics, will be so great. How now that you're an adult, you will get to have adult relationships with your parents. How your phone calls with your mom will become phone calls with your best friend. How much you'll miss your dad when your garbage disposal clogs up, but also how excited you'll be to call and tell him you fixed it yourself. How your new friends will become a family, because you all need each other. Or how FaceTime dates with your old friends will often be the comforting hug you need to get through the rest of the day. 



When you've lived in the same place your whole life, you may not be aware of how you can fall in love with a new place. But you can. And it is incredible when you do. When a simple location can 
make you swoon. 


The new adventures life takes you on, will allow you to make new friends and learn so much. These adventures will become valuable memories. But the relationships your form on these adventures will 
become life long friendships. 


No one tells you how you will fall in love with yourself. How you become your own person. How you can shape and mold and be anyone you want to be. You will take risks that will make you grow. You will get your heart broken; and change and be a different person because of it. Your sink is going to clog up and you'll ruin a shirt or two doing laundry. Sometimes, you'll cry, all by yourself. But other times, you will laugh and smile, simply because you enjoyed making yourself dinner and falling 
asleep early. 

But always, there will be people to miss. And for that we should be very very thankful. 




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